°❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･°❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･ 10th of January 2026
Dear Diary, being a lesbian is hard!!!
and right it's not what you think it is about, its about the dating world which can be so annoyingly tricky as a lesbian, which you would THINK would actually be that difficult but not only are lesbian women a minority, making the dating pool shrink massively .. it shrinks EVEN MORE if you're femme4butch or even butch4butch. Im really specific in what i want, im a femme and i strictly only date butches and studs BUT im also a stone bottom/pillow princess, and the stone butch population is so small in my age range (early 20s) PLUS im demiromantic and demisexual, so the ususual dating app approach doesn't even work, it wouldn't work anyways if i wasnt demi lol.
but i am also someone that wants to have children in the future, and get married, and also live in the countryside. or at least outside the city. and i feel thats just so hard to see as someone in her early 20s? :(( I do not doubt that theres probably a butch out there for me, that is patient, and wants to live a much more slower, intentional life with children in the future but it sucks how hard it makes it with dating!! For straight folk the main questions are like "do you wanna have kids/get married?" and thats it
especially because a a big chunk of lesbians just aren't butch nor femme, which you don't have to be at all to be a lesbian, but it feels a lot more isolating. I know tumblr has a MASSIVE butchfemme community but i quit it after like 2 months cause i got led on by a butch and to be honest, butchfemme tumblr was HORNY as fuck.
and look, i may be part of the ace spectrum but i understand horniness but oh my gosh when i tell you out of 40 posts? maybe 4 were non horny and those 4 werent even lesbian related. Sometimes i just want a place where i can appreciate butches without it all being sexual, you know?
Anyways, whilst i wait for my dream butch lover, i'll just continue playing sims 4 and minecraft in my room XD